Sunday, March 21, 2010

berbagi: woman's worth


In a brief conversation, a man asked a woman he was pursuing the question: "What kind of man are you looking for?"

She sat quietly for a moment before looking him in the eye & asking,
"Do you really want to know?". Reluctantly, he said, "Yes".

She began to expound,
"As a woman in this day & age, I am in a position to ask a man what can you do for me that I can't do for myself? I pay my own bills. I take care of my household without the help of any man...or woman for that matter. I am in the position to ask, 'What can you bring to the table?'"

The man looked at her.
Clearly he thought that she was referring to money.

She quickly corrected his thought & stated, "I am not referring to money. I need something more. I need a man who is striving for excellence in every aspect of life."

He sat back in his chair, folded his arms, & asked her to explain.
She said, "I need someone who is striving for excellence mentally because I need conversation & mental stimulation. I don't need a simple-minded man..

I need someone who is striving for excellence spiritually because I don't need to be unequally yoked...believers mixed with unbelievers is a recipe for disaster..

I need a man who is striving for excellence financially because I don't need a financial burden..

I need someone who is sensitive enough to understand what I go through as a woman, but strong enough to keep me grounded..

I need someone who has integrity in dealing with relationships. Lies and game-playing are not my idea of a strong man..

I need a man who is family-oriented. One who can be the leader and provider to the lives entrusted to him by God..

I need someone whom I can respect. In order to be submissive, I must respect him.

I cannot be submissive to a man who isn't taking care of his business. I have no problem being submissive... he just has to be worthy.

And by the way, I am not looking for him... He will find me. He will recognize himself in me. Hey may not be able to explain the connection, but he will always be drawn to me. God made woman to be a help-mate for man. I can't help a man if he can't help himself".

When she finished her spill, she looked at him.

He sat there with a puzzled look on his face.
He said, "You are asking a lot".

She replied, "I'm worth a lot".


hmm...rasanya tidak harus serumit itu. tapi ga salah juga sih. *sotoy mode on*

4 komentar:

bandit™perantau said...

hehehe...

wonderful...

piqs said...

hm. Jadi pengen liat sumber aslinya. Gw kurang sependapat sih. Ada hal-hal yang dilewatkan: the space for growth, opportunities to make mistakes and learn from each other, ya.. gitu2 deh.


And finally, yes, she indeed asked a lot :p

giaferdi said...

she said "i need..." many times, but in the end she said "i am not looking for him... he will find me", "he will always be drawn to me" etc.

while i think the whole "i need" thing is just over-the-top, the "he will always be drawn to me" thing is too demanding. if she really *needs* something, at least work on it. i mean, she can't just wait for the man of her dreams to appear and magically fall in love with her, rite. it would be as demanding as "i need a man who looks like brad pitt. i know he will love me" :P

i agree with you that it doesn't have to be that complicated. i think most of the women nowadays don't even *need* a man of any kind anyway. they find someone interesting they can connect with and be happy with, and sometimes it all that matters.

ricong said...

assa.
ah, gak worth segitunya, soalny dia bnyk mauny sih hag2.yg worth itu adlh bagaimana kita mnyikapi dan menerima seseorg yg krng bisa memenuhi kriteria kita fufufu
wass.